15th Mar 20175m08s
- One of the things that can stop you from working towards your goals and staying focused on things you need to do is emotional upheaval. When you're feeling really emotional, and you've got lots of ups and downs going on in your life, it stops you from being able to direct your energy and your attention onto the things and the activities, the decisions you need to make in order to progress towards your goals. And a lot of material that I've read, I've come across, on success, talks about mental focus. It talks about discipline. It talks about handling your willpower. And how to set up systems to encourage you to keep discipline and stay diligent with activities, even once your initial willpower has deteriorated. But a lot of them don't really talk about emotional stability, and often when we're in pursuit of a goal, our emotional life, our emotional health takes a backseat. We tend to put things away. We tend to bury things under the carpet. We just tend to shut things out, sometimes even shut people out, because it's too difficult to deal with those situations. But emotional health is really important for our overall health. And emotional stability is a baseline for mental focus. If you've got something going on in your life that's really emotional, then it's gonna be hard for you to concentrate. It's gonna be hard for you to focus in the first place, and your life is twice as difficult because of it. So logically, the thing to do is to resolve the thing that's causing you emotional distress before you can get back to focusing on the other things you wanna do. And it's important to see this is part of your overall health, your overall wellbeing. Looking after yourself involves looking after your body, looking after your mind, and looking after your emotional health. Of course, mind includes your intellect, your emotion, a whole bunch of stuff. But I think it's good to be aware specifically of how you're feeling emotionally, whether you're feeling happy, whether you're feeling upset. How do you feel in the morning? How do you feel at the end of the day? How do you feel during the day? Do your emotions go up and down like this? Do they wildly fluctuate? Or are you steady along the way? By constantly being aware of where you are emotionally, you actually get to see the early signs of depression, or you get to realize when things aren't working out for you. Because sometimes things creep up on us. We go for while not feeling happy about something without actually understanding what's going on deep down. And then one day, something just breaks. Something snaps, and suddenly we're confronted with the reality of what it is. So that happens because we're not aware on a general level of how we're feeling about things. We might be aware of how we're feeling about a thing that's immediately in front of us, but not necessarily the things that are enduring. The things that are ongoing in the background of our lives. And it's important to ask ourselves that question regularly and find out how we're feeling about those things. And once you start to do this, once you start practicing to be aware of your emotions and aware of how you feel about life, how you feel about yourself and other people, it becomes easier and easier to do and it becomes second nature. And you become much better at knowing when you either do something or something happens which isn't conducive to your emotional health. And that helps you make better decisions, and in the long run it means you can focus better on the things that are important to you. It allows you to be more authentic as well. I mean, if you're aware that your upset, and you're aware of why you're upset, and you're aware of deep that goes, it's harder for you to pretend that everything's okay. Now, initially that might seem scary because you might have lived your life in such a way that you're used to putting on a facade for people. But part of what I feel about authenticity, and I've talked about this in other videos, is that you can't truly be happy unless you're being your authentic self and being aware of your emotional health and your emotional stability is a key component to that. So all in all, it's really important to first of all be aware of your emotional health, and then to take steps to rectify issues before they turn into massive issues that you're forced to solve. And it could be that you fell out with a friend. You had an argument. Or you're just feeling upset about something. Or you're worried about something, you're not sure how you can figure it out. And it's eating away at you, and it's undermining you, it's bringing out your insecurities. And maybe you need to ask somebody for help. Maybe you need to turn to someone else for advice. Or maybe you need to have that conversation with somebody with whom you've had the argument or the fight. A difficult conversation where you can resolve those differences. But whatever it is, you have to make some progress with this. You have to move forward on this. You can't let it fester like a wound. Or it's gonna turn into something much worse.