1st Mar 20173m12s
- Life is a hustle. I was talking to my friend the other day and we were talking about how dating, especially online dating is really hard if you're a guy. So if you're a girl and you're on an online dating site, then you get tons of messages every day. And your problem is filtering through those messages, filtering through those guys to find the right type of guy for you. If you're a guy you've got a different problem. You're not getting enough messages per day. You're not getting enough matches per day. So your problem is having to send out a whole ton of messages and matches in order to get, in order to sort of guarantee yourself some results. And then having to do everything you can to build upon these results to get a connection, to get a meeting. And my friend, he described this process as a hustle. Cause everything you're doing there, everything you tweet, every tweet you makes your profile. Every tweet you make, you make some messages you send, the trial and error, all of those things, it's a hustle. YOu're doing everything you can to get what you want. And when he said that word, initially I wasn't too keen to think about it that way. I read a book called "Why America Failed" by Morris Berman who's a cultural historian. And in that book Berman describes the fundamental nature of America as hustle. He says the American people are always trying to win one over somebody else. Or they're trying to get ahead through hustling, whatever it is. Now I don't completely agree with this thesis and I'm sure a lot of other people don't either but it kind of stuck with me, that word hustle. And I associated that word with wanting to get one over somebody else. Wanting to get ahead if need be by screwing over other people. But later on I was thinking about what my friend said and I realized that actually, even if as a culture, hustling doesn't have to be the thing that underpins a culture, when it comes down to the individual human, we are a-hustling cause we want to survive. And that's what evolution's about in a way, right. It's mutations through chance, through luck but it's a form of hustling but a form that we're not directly controlling but then we hustle in our own lives to get what we want, to get ahead. So yeah, it is a hustle and once I realized and I accepted this idea that it is a hustle, whether it's dating, whether it's you know getting a job, whether it's starting a business, whatever it is, whatever kind of success you want, then I realized that you can sort of accept it and you then have to ask yourself how hard do you want to hustle I mean if the things are hustled then surely you should be hustling as hard as you can. Putting your maximum effort to get everything you want. And at what point do you draw the line? Do you cross other people? Do you do something wrong? Do you cheat somebody? I mean if hustling is the, the thing that underpins our survival, if hustling is what's gonna get you to where you want, then what is holding you back? It's your morals. It's a sense of, a higher sense of purpose, a sense of altruism. I mean what is it? And it's an interesting question I think.