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There is so much bullshit around

26th Jan 201714m56s

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  • I was thinking about my life recently. And I realized that so much of my life is just bullshit. When I say bullshit, I'm not talking about lies, or me being a fake person. Although if I'm honest, I think I am a little bit, like a lot of us. I'm talking about the fact that I don't feel fulfilled with who I am in my life. And I think I started becoming conscious of this over the last two years, particularly following the US presidential election. Just seeing how people were vociferously attacking Donald Trump painting everything he said and did as a negative, just assuming that everything he represented was negative. Just seeing the media so biased in that way, the media, politicians people in general, it just made me realized that most people most of us are really are just stuck within thought bubbles we're just trapped within a certain way of thinking, and we can't see beyond that. And it's far too easy to just get trapped like that. And so we end up just thinking bullshit, because if you're trapped within a particular way of thinking, then you can't think from other perspectives. You can never get the whole picture of what's really going on. So to sum it up, your thoughts are bullshit. You're right some of the time, but you're wrong some of the times, but because you can't think outside the box, because you can't change your perspective. You're never gonna find out when you're wrong. And I realized that, up until that moment I had done that too in my life. I'd always had certain assumptions about things, assumptions, which were wrong. And it made start to question the other things in life. And I realized that so many other things in life were just bullshit as well. Let me take dating, for instance, right? Tinder, big phenomena, it's just changed online dating. But online dating, I mean, research shows, I mean, most people know this now that it's really bad for both men and women. If you're a woman, you get hundreds of messages, and your problem comes down to how do you filter it? If you're a man, you have to send hundreds of messages just to get a few replies. Because your message is one of 100 that every woman's receiving. And that's really how it is for online dating for most people, right? Unless you're in that top 5%, who happens to be extremely good looking or attractive in other ways. You're just not gonna get a great experience from it. At least that's been my experience. And it's really the other thing that really makes it bullshit as well is, if you think about it, what is it that people are after? They wanna meet other people. You see woman you like or you see man you like, whatever your orientation doesn't matter. You see someone you like, what is the most natural, straightforward way you could express that to that person? To go up say to them, Hey, I'm so and so I think you're attractive, or whatever. And I'd like to just get to know you a little bit, is all right? And we don't do that. If I went and did that, and I've done that before, then usually the response I get is a bit of confusion mixed with surprise, mixed with a little bit of anxiety. It's almost like people don't know how to react to that, because they're not used to it. Because we've instead of doing that we're taking all these indirect routes to getting to the thing that we want. And to me, that's just bullshit. And that actually is reflective of a lot of things in our lives. How many of us really speak our minds? How many of us really say what we really think, right? Or do the things we really wanna do in moments. Versus, giving into what somebody else wants, because we're afraid to express what we want. Or maybe it's something that we want, and we sort of put it aside 'cause we rationalize it and say, Oh, you know what, it's not the right time to do that. When deep down the reason is that we just don't believe in ourselves. We're just a little bit afraid. I mean, that's bullshit, right? If you're not living the true version of who you are, then you're living in bullshit version of who you are. And so many of us, I'm convinced, are living that life. I mean it's like, things are mostly okay. But deep, deep, deep down, we're not really fulfilled. And more often than not, we don't even talk to ourselves about it. We don't even talk to our friends about that. If somebody asks you, how're you doing? How's life going? How's your job going? The most common answer is, yeah, it's fine. Yeah, it's great, it's good. I mean, is everyone really having such a great time with their job? We know that's not true, but people just don't express that. Because we've created a society where really expressing your thoughts like that isn't encouraged. People want you to say, yeah, it's great, it's fine. So the conversation, keeps flowing, can keep staying positive. Facebook is like this, it's always positive stuff. It's always how great everything's going. That's why research shows if you use Facebook all the time, you end up less happy than someone who doesn't, because you are affected by all the imagery, you see. And you start comparing yourself to the lives of other people you know. Wishing that your life was as good as theirs. But you're not seeing the whole picture, the picture you're seeing is a bullshit picture, it's not the complete picture. And we can just keep going like this, the pundits on TV, the experts, the polls, which had Hillary Clinton winning the election by huge margin, all of them wrong. The intelligence agencies who said that Trump did this, did that he denies it, and now he's getting flack for that, because apparently, they only care about national security so we should believe everything they say. Okay, what about Iraq? What about the weapons of mass destruction that Saddam Hussein was supposed to have had? What about that lie that we were told, then? Let's give them the benefit of the doubt. Let's say they weren't lying, they just had bad intelligence. Well, if that's the case, then how can we trust anything they say ever? You say, you can be truthful hundred times but if you tell a lie just once, from that point on, you've got no credibility. And this is why Julian Assange, the editor of Wikileaks, he's always stresses that, that he always makes that claim that WikiLeaks has never been proven wrong with any of its publications. And it's because he says, if they're ever proven wrong, that from that point onwards, they no longer have any credibility. And then they cast a shadow on all the previous things they said, as well. And I feel that about the intelligence agencies, how can we trust them? How can we trust what governments are saying? I mean, ultimately, we have to trust people in order to function in life, right? We can't constantly mistrust everyone and everything you have to trust at some point, otherwise, you can't live. But we can't be expected to automatically trust what people say, especially people in positions of power and influence like that. Even people like Donald Trump, because there's so much bullshit out there, there's so much bullshit out there. But coming back to sort of my personal life, and our personal lives. We were given so many promises, when we're young, you work hard, study hard, get a good degree, you'll get a good job and you'll be set for life if you just follow this path that everyone else is following. But then things happen, maybe there's a recession, the economy tax. Or you study hard, you get the degree, and you get out there and you realize oh, actually, the people who really make money are the entrepreneurs, and they're not necessarily people who had an academic orientation, like I did, they're people who have an entrepreneurial mindset. So how do I get that? Moreover, why didn't people tell me about that when I was young? Why do they only give me this path? Why was this path the only one really presented to me? What about the other path? What about other parts in general? Or alternative medicine. Is it all bullshit? Is some of it true? Why don't people research that more? What about meditation? What about spirituality? What about different kinds of political systems? I'm told democracy is the best system. But I feel it is from what I know. But actually, I don't really know about all the other political systems. Why don't more people talk about these things? Why don't we question these things? Why don't we question the dominant economic theories around us? Why do we just fall in line with what people tell us to do? Because as time goes by, I realized that so much of what I thought was true and guaranteed to be fact isn't necessarily the case. There's just bullshit everywhere. I'm not a fan of Black Lives Matter. I'm not a fan of racial divisive language, race baiting, or racial identity politics, any of that stuff. I've experienced real racism in my life as a victim, physical racism, verbal racism. And I wouldn't wish that upon anybody. And that's why I just can't support groups like that, and people who you think from within a racial lens like that. But I have to say that when some people like that, who do that, say that the game is rigged against them I agree with them a little bit. But I don't just think the game is rigged racially. I mean, the game is rigged in so many ways against all of us. And I don't think it's a group of people or a secret cabal who are controlling the world and rigging the game, I think it's an emergent property of the society we've created for ourselves. I mean, that's life, right? The game is massively unfair, some people are given a massive head start and some people have to work their ass off just to get to a level playing field with everybody else. I mean, you could argue that life is like that. And that's okay. I mean, that's natural, and nature seems like that. But I wish people were just honest about that. That yeah, it is rigged and it is hard, right? That there aren't equal opportunities everywhere. We can try our best to correct that, but we're never gonna make it perfect. Honesty, that's what we need honesty, just be honest about that. And then that idea of honesty should permeate everything else we do. People are more interested in being, feeling that they are right and feeling good about themselves than they are in actually gaining knowledge of what is actually true. When you have an argument with your friend, or you see people arguing on TV about something, they just wanna be right, they wanna win the argument because that feels good. They wanna win, we always want the best of everything. Online dating, I want the best looking person, right? I want the best job, I want the most money, always wanna go for the best, best, best, best best. I mean, there's nothing wrong with that. But oftentimes we sacrifice the truth, we sacrifice a more real perspective in a favor of a biased perspective, just because it makes us feel good, because it makes us feel like we're getting the best of something. And that in the end isn't good because we feel unfulfilled. And we create societies where people know more about the latest iPad and they do about the next door neighbor. And most of all, people just live in fear. They just don't do things because they're afraid of what other people will say about them. So they'd rather just express this untruth and live this bullshit life. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of losing what you have fear of failing to reach one's potential, all these fears just ruled by fear. It's almost a human condition, it's sad but I just think that in modern society, we've added to it, we've really added to it. It's ironic, we tell people, you've got more opportunities now than any human being has in the history of humanity before you. And yet, we probably have more fears now than people before us. Fears of middle aged men, talking to young kids, I mean, just everything is just so heightened and hysterical. This is why I always say that. No matter what you have to go beyond the limitations the world is trying to place upon you just by default, you have to carve out the kind of life that you wanna live. You have to just aim for that and you have to transcend the little box that other people wanna place you in. Especially if there are stereotypes about you, people's stereotypes about everyone. You gotta transcend those stereotypes, and you can't fall into the trap of thinking that what you see around you and what other people are doing is all that's available. This is why Traveling is good. Because it just visually shows you different ways of living different perspectives. It's why you need to try new things, it's why you should push yourself to try things you wouldn't normally even think of trying just because it'll just give you a new perspective. And it opens your mind up and it makes you realize, wow, I can be so much more than I thought I could be. And then you can start to believe that Okay, you know what, the game is rigged, and there's a lot of bullshit around me. But the best I can do is try to make this amazing situation for myself, and people I care about. Because maybe if I pull it off, then I can really live a fulfilling life. And I can start to read around I can start to see the biases in other people and start to see beyond that and see the truth, see what's really true, and actually gain and acquire real knowledge. And then maybe I can help other people do the same. The first step though, is to become conscious of the problem. Once you become conscious of the problem, then you can be aware of it. And then you'll feel the urge to change something you'll feel the urge to make a difference in your life. And then you can start taking the steps to improve it. And you might fail, it might not work out you might not reach your goals. But at least you're trying I mean, what else can you do? The alternative is just to close your eyes and just live in ignorance like most people around you. But once you become conscious of the problem, you're not gonna be able to do that because that's not gonna fulfill you. You need to move out of it, you need to move beyond it. So you might as well go into that, full on